21 Things I have Learnt at 21


So that time has come around again, I have taken another full trip around the sun. Today I turn 21. That makes a little part of my stomach fall to the ground. 21. I used to always look up to people in their twenties and admire how put together they looked and how much they seemed to have their life all sorted out for them. But in truth, as this birthday has loomed, I have felt further than that ideal. I have absolutely no idea where I am going and I feel like this next year has a lot in store for me. That is both daunting and fairly exciting. In this next year, I will hopefully graduate and move on from my student days, turning my back on the last 17 years of full-time education and that notion that you knew what the future year would hold. This time a year from now I will be out in the real world, so I guess I need to enjoy this last little bit of security.

In today’s post, I wanted to share with you 21 things I have learnt in my 21 years on this planet. I get that in relative terms, 21 years is not a lot, but I definitely feel I have some things to share.

1. It is perfectly fine to not know what you are doing.

2. No one else actually knows what they are doing.

3. The most important thing is that you are happy; money and materialism will always come second to happiness. This is something that will always ring true.

4. It is possible to kill a cactus. Yes, I am embarrassed about it, but it happened and I need to open up about that.

5. Making time to read for pleasure is important and I need to do more of that. Maybe once I finish my degree and I am not required to read 300 pages a week for my course, I will actually begin to love reading for pleasure.

6. Gilmore Girls is a must see in everyone’s lifetime. No ifs, no buts, watch it!

7. Try to only plan out your next week, it will reduce stress. This way you can really focus on the immediate and anything in the future will work it self out when you get to it. There is no point stressing over things far far away.

8. It is great to live by the seaside. Although I will always be a Londoner at heart, there is nothing more relaxing than a bike ride along the sea.

9. Quality over quantity works in pretty much every situation.

10. New York is the most magical city and I cannot wait to go back.

11. Sometimes people change, that is okay, just don’t hang on if it isn’t worth it.

12. Sometimes you will change, you don’t always have to feel guilty about that either.

13. There is everything right with a chilled night in. Grab some snacks and put on a movie in your pyjamas.

14. It is never too early to start celebrating Christmas. Well maybe maybe June is a little early, but you get what I mean.

15. Never do unnecessary seminar prep. Just do enough to be prepared, but don’t stress about the non-essential stuff.

16. If you want something, you have to go and get it. No one else will open that door for you.

17. People use people for personal gain. It is an awful thing but we just have to accept that it happens and find the people who don’t.

18. A tidy desk equals a tidy mind.

19. My mum is always right!!! Though she has probably been hoping I would have learnt that before my 21st!!

20. There is nothing wrong with eating home-baked goods before noon.

And Finally

21. Go with the flow, everything works out exactly how it should in the end.

So that is just a short list of some of the most important things I have learnt over the years… some may be slightly more important than others, but each are on this list in their own right. I guess often everyone has to learn some of these things the hard way and we can’t always prevent that.

It would be wonderful if you would leave a comment telling me one thing you have learnt in your years on this earth. Maybe we can all swap a little bit of wisdom

Joanna x

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  • Reply Megan Jackson 11/11/2017 at 6:52 pm

    First of all, happy birthday!!! Second, I loved this, I turned 21 in August and I know how daunting it is to feel like you should have your life together. I agree with so many of your points (definitely the Gilmore Girls one). One thing I’ve learnt recently, is to stop holding on to the people that aren’t going to put the effort in to stay friends with you. So what if I lose lots of friends because of this, I’m not going to apologise for being me.
    I hope you’ve had a wonderful day x

    • Joanna Turner
      Reply Joanna Turner 14/11/2017 at 9:10 am

      Thanks so much!! Yes, I completely agree. These things are a two way street and quality is more important than quantity in terms of friends!!

  • Reply Lizzie Bee 12/11/2017 at 1:17 pm

    Wow, these are some really good life lessons! I resonate strongly with the “planning your next week one” – whenever I haven’t planned my week I get really stressed out and my eating habits get worse.

    One thing I’ve learnt (which was quite sad to realise) was that you will never be best friends forever. The friends I made at school I don’t even speak to nowadays, and I’ve learnt that we were only friends because we were stuck in the same class and didn’t have much in common.

    • Joanna Turner
      Reply Joanna Turner 14/11/2017 at 9:10 am

      I completely agree!! But we have to accept that and make sure that we hold onto the people most important to us!!

  • Reply Rachel 12/11/2017 at 5:19 pm

    Such wonderful lessons!
    I hope 22 is your best year yet ✨

  • Reply Katya 14/11/2017 at 5:43 am

    You know as they say, ” age is just a number”. All you have to do is love at the moment. If you are 21, you have a lot of things you can still do.

    StyleSprinter Blog by Katya Bychkova

  • Reply Heidi 14/11/2017 at 8:21 pm

    Happy belated birthday! There are so many amazing things on this list. I love reading posts like this because these give me little reminders about the little things that matter. Like the last, important one, for example! One of the most important lessons that I have learned is that “Poor people cannot afford to buy cheap things.”

    Heidi ✨ | Heidi’s Planner

    • Joanna Turner
      Reply Joanna Turner 22/11/2017 at 4:49 pm

      Thank you!! The little things are the most important and too often we forget that!

  • Reply Coco Mallory 15/11/2017 at 10:27 am

    Happy (belated) Birthday! I hope you had a fun filled day 🙂 also these are very useful tips and I TOTALLY agree about the Gilmore Girls one! currently re-watching it for the 3rd time… xx

    • Joanna Turner
      Reply Joanna Turner 22/11/2017 at 4:50 pm

      Thank you!!! I am going to start rewatching it as soon as I finish!!

  • Reply Diana 18/11/2017 at 5:49 pm

    I’ve killed my cactus too! Haha, who knew that was possible? My mother is definitely always right- and all of these points are just so true. I think we all feel that we have no idea where we’re going at some point in our lives, and I think we’re meant to. Embracing the unknown can make it exciting as there is so much opportunity ahead. Happy belated birthday! xx

    • Joanna Turner
      Reply Joanna Turner 22/11/2017 at 4:51 pm

      Thank you! This comment meant a lot as I definitely feel like having no idea can be the most exciting thing! I hope that you take better care of your next cactus 😉

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